#330 - Peter's NDE - Fu Manchu In A Tweed Suit

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I had intense fear and panic because we were obviously crashing. Out of my heart came the

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thought, oh God help, I'm going to die.

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From the time that they pronounced me dead was a good 45 minutes.

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It's determined that I was not breathing for 20 minutes.

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They cut my clothes and then they paddled my heart, my heart had stopped. And I could

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see people screaming and crying, but I didn't realize that was actually my physical body

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because I was somewhere else.

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By which you went to the past far, in the afternoon, by half past seven I was dead, clinically

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dead for four minutes.

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And they were crying because I was dead and I was trying to tell them, no I'm not dead,

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I'm just fine, I'm okay.

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I was greeted by people I'd known in the past.

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I started to feel like I was surrounded by all this warm, loving, beautiful, soothing,

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loving energy.

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I'm back with God again. I just felt this all night to release, like, wow, I'm back,

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I'm back home again.

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Incredibly safe and felt at home. I'd come back home. It was a very strong feeling,

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I've come back home.

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The only thing that I could feel, if you could imagine, absolute love and peace, there wasn't

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anything else to be felt.

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And light is literally emitting from him. And I could feel that that tremendous amount

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of love was coming through him as well.

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They were brighter than everybody else and I just knew who they were.

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Welcome everybody to Round Trip Death. We are super thrilled to have Peter Bedard with

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us today from sunny, sunny Southern California. How are you, Peter?

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I am fantastic. It's good to see you.

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I think when I say Southern California, most people are thinking along the coast.

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Right.

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What's your desert man?

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I am. I love the heat. It's amazing here. I was saying earlier that our winters are

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many places summer. So we have beautiful winters that are in the 70s and 80s that our summers

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do get on, but it's been remarkably cool. It's only 88 degrees today, which in June,

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we should be around 100. So for us, it's just a lifestyle. You learn to adapt to the desert.

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We have tons of festivals, awesome, cool things out here. I love living in the desert.

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That sounds great. A lot of retired people as well.

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Yeah. It actually predominantly was Hollywood. It was medicinal. So there's a lot of hot

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springs here. So a lot of people came here over the years, especially back in the day

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for the hot springs. And then you know, Hollywood, the Rat Pack and all that type of stuff really

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made Potter Springs famous. And a lot of people retired here and now it's turning into like

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me more of a year round community. I'm part of our business chamber and we do all kinds

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of really just amazing stuff. I just love living out here.

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Well, I warned you I was going to do this. Our listeners want to find out who Peter is.

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Tell us just a little bit about you. And then we're going to jump right into your NDE. So

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go for it.

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Okay. So I, who am I? I am the divide present as an individual.

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I live out here in the desert.

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I'll believe whatever you tell me. Go right ahead.

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Well, you know, it's that philosophy question. Who are you? I am that I am. Right. But I'm

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a human level and I, I used to guy, I lived out in the desert for several years. I grew

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up in California. I had a unusual career path as a kid. I was in the theater and I was discovered

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as a dancer. I have the body type of a dancer. You know, there's a football player, body

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type basketball player, Bobby body type. I'm very blessed to get older and I, you know,

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still kind of have that. I've certainly put on a little weight. But back when I was younger,

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I was the guy that, you know, still fit in this high school jeans for quite a long time.

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I was a dancer. I am that piece part of my near death story. So I will go into that too

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much, but I was a child actor. I lived in LA. I did a lot, nothing really big. I did a lot

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of stuff in, in London for a while. I came out to LA and I at some point just decided

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that I really didn't want to do that anymore. And I got a degree in consciousness studies,

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a master's degree in consciousness studies. And that's the study of science and religion.

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So I got to study cosmology and string theory and, and the big bang and all that type of

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stuff along with the bog of the Gita and Christian mysticism and, and Buddhism and all types

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of really wonderful things. It's one of my favorite things that I've done and I was not

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a school person. So for me to go back to school and get a master's was it meant I really,

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really loved it. And I still do. I love the intersection between philosophy, theology and

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science. It's just an amazing place.

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I'm going to let our listeners know right now as you tell your story, they're going

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to hear some things they have never heard before. And it just, it just kills me that

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this keeps happening. When I think I've heard it all, I haven't, and I know I never will

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because everybody's near death experience is different. And that is so cool about it.

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All right. Get us back to the Bay Area. You're 17 years old. You're a dancer. What, what's

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going on in your life?

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Yeah. So I was, I was a kid that didn't fit in. I was kind of little Billy Elliot. My

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dad was a Marine and a professional umpire. And my mom was a housewife who sold Avon. And

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I grew up in the suburbs of Silicon Valley. So as Silicon Valley came into being, it was

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San Jose was where I grew up the city. And as it came into being, as I grew up, the orchards

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came down and it turned into from an orchard farming community into what we know today

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as Silicon Valley. And I grew up the theater. I grew up in the suburbs. It was not the best

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place for me. It was great for my brother and sister, but I was more of the Billy Elliot

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star. I don't know if you remember that movie Billy Elliot. It came out many years ago.

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It's the dad who has a gay son and they have to figure out how to do, how to be together,

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how to connect with each other, how to live together. And the son just wanted to be the

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dancer and the dad was a brawler and a drinker and all that type of stuff. Boozer, right?

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That type of thing. I like, I wanted to go to the museums. I wanted to go to theater.

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I wanted to learn all that type of stuff about art, music and stuff like that. And my parents

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were very sort of low middle class, uh, wonderful people, but I really didn't fit in. I didn't

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fit in at all. Give us an idea of what years this was. That'll help people put this in

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perspective. Sure. Well, I'm in my 50s now. So this was back. I was born in the 60s.

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So this is the 70s and 80s. Well, things were changing socially at that time, especially

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in the Bay Area. Absolutely. That lifestyle was much more accepted all of a sudden. Yes.

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And I was in the suburbs. So, so not as much, not as much now. Uh, but luckily I, I was

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discovered. I, you know, I was put into dance by other people who saw my talent and put

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me into these scholarship based classes. We didn't have the money to pay for them. So

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to be able to have a scholarship, uh, and get that training within my first year of

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dancing, I was already assistant teaching, which was just a huge gift. And I felt like

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I found my home. You know, I found a way to fit in. I found a way to feel safe in my body

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as a teenager. You know, I, I didn't feel safe in my community. Not that anybody was

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overtly doing anything, but there was no one like, I just didn't fit in. And so to have

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that experience of, of finding where I could excel, you know, it's kind of like the kid

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discovering that they're a great basketball player. Well, I discovered I was a great dancer

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and I was good at it and I had to work at it, but it was natural and came natural to

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me to be able to dance and perform and do those types of things. So that was really

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my home. I didn't necessarily feel safe, but it wasn't that my family was doing anything

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to make me not feel safe. It's just, I was the kid that didn't fit in. There was no,

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there was no role model. There was nobody liked me around. And my, my parents were cast

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like an Episcopalian and there was a lot of that sort of energy coming at me. And again,

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this was the seventies and eighties. And like I said, there was a lot happening and you

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know, people were talking later in the eighties about the age crisis and all that type of

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stuff going on. And there was a lot of shame. And so I stayed in the closet for a long time

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because I didn't feel again, I didn't feel safe being who I was. And it was, it was a

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little bit dangerous because I saw people get beat up being who they were and then people

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hurt for who they were.

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And was your dad one of those kind of tough macho military dads?

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Yeah, kind of. He was, he got kicked out of the Marines because he couldn't take orders.

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My dad did not like anybody taking, he didn't like having a boss. So my dad ended up being

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a mailman where he could just do his job and they kind of just left them alone. And he

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was beloved. Our community loved my dad. I grew up with all these kids who knew my dad

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and thought my dad was absolutely amazing. And yeah, and I was, I, Danny was, he was

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a great guy, but we just didn't know, we didn't have a common language. We didn't know how

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to speak to each other. And it took a long time for us to find that my parents have come

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such a long way. I'm so proud of them. They've really come to a point where my nephew who

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is gay, they are absolutely supported by mom literally just showed up at the second pride

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festival in her small town. They live in a small town out in Southern California now

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too. And, and literally like she was wanting to be there and support and, and be out there

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and say, you are loved no matter who you are and that type of stuff. And dad, my parents

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come that way. But I can tell you a very personal story. It's a tangent to what this view of

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it is.

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You know, go, go right ahead.

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Okay. So a few years back, gosh, this is probably 10 years ago. This was how I knew

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my father had come to terms and actually accepted me. And it was, it was just such a wonderful

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experience. I lived in LA. I was in the Hollywood scene. I knew lots of people and I did lots

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of things. I went to lots of parties and all that type of stuff. And I had met one, I had

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made friends with one of your first Victoria's secret supermoms, right? She had become a

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friend of mine. And you know, the angels, the Victoria's secret angels, they would

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wear the lingerie and the angel wing. I don't know if you're familiar with that.

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Oh, absolutely.

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Yeah.

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I mean, no, no, what are you talking about?

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Well, I met one of those girls.

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My wife and my kids might listen. So no, I don't know what you mean.

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Yeah, I never heard. So I met one of the first angels and she is really sweet to me and she

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invited me over to for Thanksgiving. And I called up my dad and they said, dad, I don't

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know what I should do. Should I come home for Thanksgiving? Should I not? I have this

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invitation to go to the supermodel Thanksgiving. And my dad said to me, which was just one of

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the, I said, yeah, my heart still softens when I hear what I tell this story. My dad

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said, well, don't supermodels have a lot of gay friends. Maybe you should go there and

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maybe you'll meet someone. And so for my Billy Ellie dad, like Marine umpire, sports fanatic,

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you know, tough guy dad to tell me that he thinks I should go to Thanksgiving at the

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supermodel's house says, because maybe I'll make a, I'll make a friend or be the partner

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or something like that. That was just the moment that I knew that my parents, my father

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specifically came around and loved me exactly as I was and wanted me to be.

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And how old were you then? Gosh, it took a long time. I was in my 40s. So that took

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a long time. It did. It took a long time. There's so much misinformation and fear and

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religiosity and all that type of stuff that just gets in the way of us loving each other.

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Well, and a big part of the message that we learn from near death experiences is pure

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love period. Absolutely. People just do not feel judged. It's just love. All right, let's

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jump into it. 17 year old Peter. What's going on? So as you know, I was involved in performing

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and I was, it was my senior year of high school and I, there was a, there was a little theater

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in the downtown area near not far, not too far from my house. And this theater was a

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old vaudeville theater. It was amazing. It's like, you know, boo and hiss of the villain

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and the red hot mama. Yeah, no, all that. Of course it had red hot mama throwing popcorn,

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all that type of sound, right? It was, it was amazing. It was so cool. I still wanted to

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do that. At the time the drinking age was 18. I was only 17. I was only allowed to be

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on the stage. I couldn't even step off the stage. I could only be backstage and because

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I wasn't old enough to be in a, a good environment where they served alcohol. And my grandfather,

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one of the reasons I was so excited about this, because my grandfather played the banjo.

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And when he could, he would play in the vaudeville circuit. He would, you know, when he couldn't,

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they needed somebody to fill in or be a banjo player, he would play the banjo. So I had this

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connection with vaudeville. So I auditioned and I got the part and I got to play the horse's

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ass. Literally, I got to be the horse costume and do that type of stuff. And it was just

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so fun. And I'm 70, I'm over 17 and a half. I have just a couple of months till my birthday

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and that opening weekend there, of course, was a party and my parents were very protective

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of me. They were overly protected. They were very protected of me, told me I couldn't go.

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And I was really upset. I had always been a good boy. My brother was the black sheep

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of the family. And I saw my older brother and I saw all that was like, I'm not doing

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any of that. They would get fights and just, it was awful. And so I decided to not go down

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that path. And I was always a good kid. So I was really angry. I was very pissed off.

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And my parents told me I couldn't go to this party. But I obeyed them and I jumped on my

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bike. I had a Moto B cane, which is like an Arleigh Moped. It's an English Moped. And

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I got on my bike and I was driving back home into the suburbs. And people, I'm sure, know

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that as you go into the suburbs, there are often really wide streets that lead into the

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developments. There's like four lane streets that go in. Nobody's on the streets.

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The feeder routes and it's dark. Yeah, it is dark. And the street has a curve to it,

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like a big S, right? So I'm approaching that curve. I'm turning into the curve. There's

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a car that suddenly appears. Literally, I did not see this car come from anywhere. Suddenly,

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this car is behind me. Its headlights are flashing in my side mirrors, my side rear view mirrors.

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And as I'm turning into the curve, there is a parked semi truck in that curve. And I try

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to go around the semi truck. I'm not, I can't. I have several thoughts flashing my head really

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quickly. What am I going to do? Am I going to try to fit between the semi truck and the

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car? Can I jump the curb and get on the sidewalk? But there was a cyclone, those metal cyclone

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fences right there. So I could lay my bike down. And I, before I could even make a full

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choice, the car hit my back tire and it pushed my back tire. I was probably going maybe 20

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miles an hour. I was breaking the car, pushed my tire, takes my bike up up the impact, picked

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my bike up and pushed me into the back of the park semi truck. So the bike went under

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the truck, slid out through there. There was a wheel guard underneath the truck at the bumper

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of the truck. And so I get that and bounced off into the street. And the car drove away

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and it was in October. And I don't know if you know the weather, where you do a little

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bit the Bay Area in San Jose. The weather is just amazing. And it's those warm days and

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those cool, crisp sort of, you know, autumn, summer nights.

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Yeah, it's a beautiful time of year there. So this car didn't stop to help you.

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Did it, besides it hitting your tire, which threw you into the truck, did the car hit

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you too? I'm just trying to picture all the damage that happened.

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No, the car hit my bike, thrust my, I was already going 20 miles per hour. It sort of

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pushed my bike probably into a faster speed. I consciously jumped out of my bot. So I didn't

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come my mentality, my consciousness didn't hit the truck. My body did. But I jumped out

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of my body those seconds and watched the bike and the car hit the truck or my bike and my

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body hit the truck and watched the car drive away. I watched that whole thing.

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Before we go on, some people are going, huh, what? I can't do that. Is this a gift that

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you already had or did it just in the split second happened?

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It's something I had done previously. Just as a kid, I think it's like, you know, we

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call it astral projecting. I've never practiced it. I've done it a few times just while meditating

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without not being on purpose, just done it over the years. It's, if anybody wants to

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look it up, it is called astral projecting and it's bringing your consciousness, right?

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Separating your consciousness. There's people often talk about having a tether and stuff

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like that to link you always. But I jumped out of my body and watched that whole thing

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and it was a beautiful experience. I remember thinking of what a gorgeous night it was.

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I think it was all known. I remember it just, there was the sky. Even though it was probably

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around 1030 at night, 10 or 1130 at night, I watched the whole thing with this sense

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of just curiosity and detachment. There was no pain. And I think that one of the lessons

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I learned is I think is when we do go through the death process, often we can step out.

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We can have a choice. And if I've seen this before with other people and they're dying

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processes, I've been around people and helped people go through the process of transitioning

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and dying. And as us looking at people maybe in the hospital bed, writhing in pain, what

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I discovered was that's their body, but not necessarily their consciousness. That oftentimes

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they're really not even in their body while their body is going through this process of

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letting go of its human flesh. I think that's a very common thing. And we get very upset

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about it because it's hard for us to look at someone suffering. And at the same time,

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I often don't think that that person is really there. So are they really suffering? In my

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case, no. There was really no suffering in the process of my transitioning, of my dying

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and letting go of my body. It was actually really beautiful. I think it's a choice that

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we can make. If people haven't done that, maybe I happen to believe because of these

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experiences and my spiritual education, I happen to believe they're reincarnation. I

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think we come back and we do these things many, many times. And in that experience,

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if we've already experienced something, then maybe we don't have to do that again. We don't

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need to. Oh, I've already done that. I don't need to learn about that. So I can step out

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like I did and just watch the whole thing.

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People that listen to this show, this isn't a new thing to us. This is we've had people

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on before that have talked about, Hey, I was in this car accident where we came around

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a mountain road. I see mountain road car slid off a cliff. And as the car is plunging off

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a cliff, she said, I wasn't in my body. I was just watching and I love how very matter of

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fact it is. It's not like I was out of my body screaming bloody murder. It's I'm just

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watching like, okay, no fear, no fear, no worry. And I've talked to other people, especially

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in horrific accidents of some sort, like traffic accidents that were out of their body when

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it happened and they didn't feel the impact, whether it was off a cliff or head on collision.

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And they hadn't practiced it or anything. They didn't even know the term astral travel

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like you're talking about, but they they had somehow some way right before the moment of

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collision became an observer, a witness instead of experiencing the most traumatic thing that

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could ever happen.

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It's one of the I like to differentiate nowadays because there's so much like ayahuasca and

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drug use where people have these experiences where they feel like they're dying. And I have

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to check myself because I get a little offended sometimes from this because oh my God, I died

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too. Oh, tell me about your NDE. Oh, well, I did ayahuasca and and it was oh my God, I

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would do this death process. And I'm like, okay, that's all right. That's not exactly

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the same thing. Please don't call it that you don't say that you died. Maybe your ego died.

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Maybe you had to face a bunch of like experiences and you had to kill off a part of you that

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needed to be released or something like that. But that's not the same thing. And I often

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hear these people, oh yeah, I am in your death experience. Well, no, no, no, you didn't.

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Not exactly. I like to say maybe close to that experience or an ego death experience

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or something of that. But that's not a near death experience. Right. Or they may have

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had an out of body experience of some sort. Exactly. And ions classifies those as near

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death experiences just because they're putting this blanket term on all of it. But yes, some

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things are different than others. Yeah, because in those experiences, there's a lot of fear.

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Yes, those people feel so much fear. They feel so much pain. They feel this death, this dramatic

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idea that especially with the ayahuasca death experience, they feel these dramatic kind of

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painful, ripping away type of things. And when I see people talk about near death experiences,

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like like when I add, that's very matter of fact, like you said, it's very, oh, it just happened.

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It's part of my story. It's part of my experience. There's really no drama with it. So that's why

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I like to think of the other one as an ego death experience. Okay. Not quite the same.

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Anyway, super interesting. So we're just getting started here. Okay. Let's jump back into it.

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So you're now crashing into a semi truck, a parked semi truck. Yeah. Yeah. What happens to your body

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and what happens to you? So I get to watch the whole thing and that was not wonderful. I think it

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was a gift where I get to watch my body just get mangled and not feel it. What a great gift that

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and feel great. So my body itself, I shattered five vertebrae, I cracked five vertebrae,

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I split my right wrist open, I lost all the nerves in my right hand. I had undiagnosed brain

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damage and I shattered my left knee. So my knee was a very interesting injury because it was from

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the back of the knee. So my kneecap was intact, but the ballers leading into the knee had shattered

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in the joint to little tiny pieces, which was another just amazing experience because that's

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what a lot of football players gather when they got a knee injury is from the rear and they,

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my injury, they flew 14 surgeons in from the NFL to actually put my knee back together.

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And they ended up doing at the time a very experimental surgery where they glued all the

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little bone fragments together. I only have three little pins in my knee. So I have three metal

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pins in my knee. I had a big steel rod in my knee just to stabilize it. And they took that out.

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And when those bones, those bones grafted back together and they were stabilized because of

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that rod, they pulled the rod out. And those three little pins are the only thing there.

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So I feel very blessed by how the doctors were able to handle putting my bones back together.

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They had no idea what to do with me after that, but I was able to walk. I couldn't dance.

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But, you know, one doctor told me I wouldn't be able to walk and if I could, I'd have to have

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assistance or the wheelchair or a walker or something of that sort. And I beat their prognosis.

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I actually said a bad word to the doctor. I told the doctor to f off when he told me that

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there's no way they could, that's a prognosis in their opinion. That's not my life. And so

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I was a little sassy kid.

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I've had a couple of doctors. I've wanted to do that too. When I've had major injuries, Dr.

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Rogers, you don't know what I was thinking about you anyway. Anyway, keep going.

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Okay. So my body was pretty shattered. I watched myself down there. I watched the car drive away.

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And I was just in this very serene, quiet place of just admiring the beauty of the night. It was so

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like the juxtaposition was just odd. And I was aware that it was odd. I was very aware that, oh,

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that's my body. And I'm fine. I was very aware not only am I fine, but I actually feel good.

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So I'm out of my body. My body's over the street. Nothing's happening against a quiet suburban road.

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We have no record. The police record disappeared. We have no record of an ambulance. An ambulance

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called someone called it. Someone, I saw the ambulance as I was outside of my body.

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And there's no police report. There's no ambulance record. There's nothing until I get to the hospital.

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So my parents home was about a half hour, 25 minutes from the hospital. And somebody at some

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point had to find me and then call the paramedics. Paramedics had to come out, which at that time,

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the response time was about 12 minutes. So in that time, I have no idea how much time it was,

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because I didn't go back into my body fully until I woke up in the hospital. I was outside

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the, at least for an hour that I could think that I'm aware of. I'm watching my body. The car drives

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away. It's beautiful. And suddenly I feel myself being pulled. I did the tunnel. So I feel myself

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being pulled into the tunnel. And that's, you know, very common. My tunnel was spinning. So it's

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spinning clockwise and it was spinning clockwise and moving forward. So the tunnel is rotating,

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but also rotating in a direction. It was a very interesting experience. I think why that's so

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interesting to me is just my physics understanding and quantum theory. And, you know, that's like

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what the universe is like as our solar system is moving through space. It's rotating, but it's also

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going in a direction. It's not stagnant. And so my experience was very much like that. I was

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rotating clockwise, but I was also spiraling towards something. And what is that tunnel looking like?

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Is it white? Is it dark? And there must have been some kind of, I don't know, structure or

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something to it to where you could actually tell that it was spinning. That's right. If it was pure

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white, for example, you wouldn't be able to tell. So give me some detail on the tunnel.

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So the tunnel that I went down was, it sort of had a base of white, but you know, when you look

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through prisms and you see the white of the light gets shattered into rainbows, that's what my tunnel

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was like. It was full of light, was full of color, and it was full of depth. It was like,

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I don't know how to say it exactly, but like if you were thinking of a cave and a crystal cave,

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and the crystal's growing on the cave, and some are going to be bigger or longer or be wider or

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whatever, that's kind of like what my space was. There was nothing solid about it. It felt like

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pure energy, so I couldn't necessarily see through it. It wasn't translucent, but it was just light.

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So it's hard to explain because it again, it wasn't solid. My whole experience being on the other side,

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nothing was solid, but everything had form. And were you headed towards something down the tunnel?

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Was there something at the other end you were seeing? I didn't see anything. I was just in a

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tunnel and I was enjoying the light and the movement and the direction and the colors. And

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then all of a sudden, it was just in a snap. Suddenly, I was in a place. I have no idea what

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this place was. That place, like the tunnel, was full of light. I had this sensation that I was in

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a defined space, and yet at the same time, it felt infinite. I felt like I was at a location,

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and there was a sense of like it's stamped, but I couldn't necessarily see or explore. It was kind of

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like that white energy, that light energy, and the colors there, I can't even explain. The colors

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are so brilliant. They're colors that we don't see in our daily human life. I got to think about it.

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I think I read once that seahorses have the ability to see twice as many colors as we see.

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That's amazing. That there are more colors that exist even in the world that we're living in,

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in this physical world, that we as human beings can interpret with the colors of our eyes.

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There's actually so much more out there that we just don't see.

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So try to describe one of them. I mean, I'm looking at that artwork behind you. There's red,

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blue, yellow, green. There's nearly everything orange. There's nearly everything in the rainbow,

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in this kind of geometric abstract. But are we looking towards the reds, towards the blues,

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or towards something you can't even describe at all?

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I can't describe it. It's just, it's as if our spectrum of color is multiplied, and I want to

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say by four. There's four other realms, spectrums of color that we are part of. We see a particular

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section of that. But there's more, and the colors are just, the colors are more energy than color.

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I don't know if that makes, I don't think that makes any sense. The colors are more perception.

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In other words, it's not something you just see with your eyes.

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No, exactly. It's something that you feel. It's literally physically. The colors, you feel the

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vibration and the frequency of the colors. Like they're tactile. You can touch them,

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and you can feel them on the body that I had there. I actually had a body there. I actually,

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it wasn't that I was disembodied. It wasn't that I was just pure energy. I personally had a shape.

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I had a form. I never saw a mirror of myself to see myself, but I could see my hands. I could see

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my feet. I knew my body was intact. I knew my legs were fine. I knew my spine was fine.

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I knew my face had gotten ripped open. I knew it was fine.

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You didn't see a mirror, but you felt like it was more of a human form, like your regular fingers,

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toes, et cetera. Okay.

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Yeah. Yeah. I can look down and see my legs and my legs fully functioned. I had my toes. I had my

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legs. I was a dancer, so I was very strong. I was very long and lean and sinnowy, and all that was

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still there. I could see my arms. I could see whatever you've been seeing, looking at your body

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without a mirror. I could look down and I could see my hips. I could see my elbows. I could see

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these parts of me. I had the same form that I have now, and I had the same structure that I have now.

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In this place of feeling and frequency and light and vibration, I don't know how to describe it,

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and I'm sure you've heard this many times. If you take the word joy or bliss, let's say,

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in the English language, the happiest word that you could use, the word with the most,

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I think it's joy. Joy is above all emotions, the joy or bliss.

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I agree. It's way deeper than happiness. Happiness can be very fleeting joy is much deeper and much

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more eternal. It comes from within. Yeah. It's this joyful experience of being in this place.

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It's inside of me. I feel the joy. I am the joy. Multiply that by a million, and maybe you'll get

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a fraction close to the understanding of what it is on the other side, a fraction close to that

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understanding. It is the most beautiful, blissful, joyous, happy, expansive, conscious, gorgeous,

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this amazing experience being that. I wish I had more adjectives for you to fill in,

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because I could tell you could use a million of them.

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They still wouldn't come close to this frequency, this vibration, to this feeling tone.

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They just wouldn't, from this beingness, because it really is a beingness. It's like your whole

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self, every cell, every part of your consciousness, every part of me was lit up and filled with this

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joy. It wasn't like being high. It was fully aware. It wasn't like being unconscious or detached.

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It's not like people describe trips or drug trips or something like that. It was full consciousness.

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In fact, more conscious than I think we can be as human beings, at least in this earthly plane.

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There was this access to self, to everything, like the capital S self, to the divine itself.

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I love this. Keep your train of thought. I'm going to sidetrack us for just a second.

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Why, if you felt that, and it was that amazing, when you came back, why didn't you just commit

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suicide to get back there? Oh my gosh. I'm so glad you brought that up, because

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I never tried to consciously plan out suicide. But for at least 20 years, if not more,

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I would put myself into situations where I could have left. I could have died. I could have ended

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my life. I had four experiences after that, where I was severely hospitalized, and I had to consciously

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choose to stay. And you did. And I did. I didn't want, there was something, there is something

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holding me here. There's something that's saying, nope, not yet, not time, even when I've been in

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my most, because I have, I've had quite a few dark nights of the soul in my life. I've had quite a

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few of those experiences of just being like, I'm just going to, I'm done. I'm done. I don't want to

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be here. And there's something when I get to that place that keeps me here. There's, I'm here for

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some purpose. If somebody is having a really, really hard day today as they're hearing this,

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please tell them something that's going to help keep them here.

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That they had, there's a reason they're here, that their life is important, that their life is

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valuable, that they are already and have already achieved their purpose in life. They're already

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fulfilling. So many people are, I feel useless. Nobody loves me. I'm not receiving my purpose.

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And I'm going to get a little spiritual on people that I think we are all emanations of the divine.

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I think God in itself is getting to know itself through us. We are like a wave on the ocean.

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That's part of what I've made my studies and that experience of being crossed over has taught me

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that I come from, we come from divine source. We are pure divine source in human form. And just

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by being here and being in human form, you are already achieving your purpose.

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Beautiful. Your purpose is to be an expression of the divine. And if that expression is sad,

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be sad. Great. Own it. It's the divine getting to know itself. People say, well, why would God

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make that? Well, God would make that because God wants to know all of the human possibilities.

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God wants to know every human possibility. God wants to know what it's like to be itself

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in a handicap like what I have. God wants to know what it's like to be itself unhappy.

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God wants to know what it's like to be itself. Enjoy and bliss as the human experience. I think we

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are all that consciousness getting to understand itself when you stop thinking in the old ways of,

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oh, well, why would God want pain in the world? Well, we are in the closeness of the divine.

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And that pain is an opportunity for us to move closer to the divine, to choose, to make that

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choice. We have free will. Thank you. We're jumping back on the track now. Okay. Okay.

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You were talking, well, about the beautiful colors, about the amazing feeling of joy that is

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inexplicable and how the form of you was either the same or similar to your form now in this life.

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Okay. Keep going with your experience. So I'm on the other side and I'm, I start to get very

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curious of like, well, where is everybody? Because I had this idea that when you die,

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my dead dog was going to be there. My great-grandmother and, you know, my ancestors or people that were

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part of my family were going to greet me and bring me through the pearly gates. And so there was

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nobody there. Where were they? Where were they? Exactly. Not disappointing. Well,

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so this is part of the learning that I took away from this experience too, was that, and I wasn't

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upset that they weren't there. It was just pure curiosity. There wasn't a judgment about it. It

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was just, oh, where is everybody? I thought they were, I thought I was going to get to see my dead

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dog. I really want to see my dead dog. And so I'm on the other side. I'm exploring this space.

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And in this space, I'm aware that again, like I said, it's, it's a defined space, but there's

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really no ceiling. I feel like I'm standing on something, but I look down and there's really

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no floor. There's just frequency and vibration and energy. I'm so curious about this space. I'm

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moving about it. I'm curious where everybody is. I have no idea how long in there it felt like a long

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time. And not in a negative way, just it felt like time had really gone by in that place. And then

427
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suddenly I turned around and there is this man standing in front of me. And the moment I turn

428
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around, so that's an interesting thing because I have consciousness where I could turn around.

429
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Like I'm viewing this space in a way like in humans still. I'm viewing this space, my eyes are in

430
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front of me. I'm taking everything in and I have to turn to see that, oh, there's somebody else here.

431
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So I turned to see that there's somebody else here. When I do, I feel like my breath,

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which I don't know how that works, but I feel like my breath is taken out of me. My chest is

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splitting open and there's this ecstatic experience of recognition of I love love. It's an ecstatic.

434
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I used to read a lot about medieval nuns talking about their marriage to Christ. And they would

435
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talk about this heart-wrenching, chest-breaking, painful experience of their chest splitting

436
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open. And I'm like, oh my God, that's what they're talking about. I literally felt this love that

437
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was just being ripped through me. And at the same time, my mind is saying, who the hell is this?

438
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I don't know who this guy person is. He looks, he's an Asian man. He looks like Lao Tzu or

439
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Fu Man Tzu, like this traditional Chinese British man. I go back to the phrase too, the understanding

440
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of maybe Hong Kong in 1880 or something like that. He's like, he's wearing a tweed suit,

441
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but again, he's all aggrieved. I can see through him, yet there's texture and there's color to

442
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the fabric. And I remember being so curious about the weave of the fabric and seeing the depth of

443
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the fabric and the weave itself in the fabric. Anyway, all this is happening at the same time.

444
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My heart, my chest is being ripped open. My heart is just reaching out. There's this ecstatic love.

445
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There's this curiosity, who the hell is this? Who the heck is this guy? And the same consciousness

446
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of, is God Asian? What's going on? And he has like the must-ask, the Fu Man Tzu, must-ask,

447
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the long wispy beard, tweed suit. And he says to me, what are you doing here? And I just kind of

448
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look at him and the conversation goes along the lines of why I feel this love. I feel the love

449
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coming back to me. It's a receiving that's happening as well. My body is literally like vibrating

450
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with the body that I'm the energetic body that I'm in. And she's saying, what are you doing here?

451
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And I'm confused. I'm like, well, I'm dead. I'm very clear that I'm back there. And this is where

452
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I'm supposed to be. I'm dead. And he says, you're not supposed to be here. And with that, with that

453
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being told, I'm not supposed to be here. All of my, I want to call it human, my anger that I said I

454
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was feeling before I died from my parents, right? All of that anger, the feeling of being rejected,

455
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feeling of being unwanted, which is my Billy Elliot story, that story of not fitting in.

456
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All of that comes back to me. He says, you're not supposed to be here. It's not time. And then,

457
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literally snap, I'm back hovering over the accident. I'm no longer on the other side. I'm not in my body.

458
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I am watching the paramedics as they come and get. And I literally said, my last word in heaven or

459
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whatever this place is called, my last words, like I said earlier to that doctor, who were as you,

460
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who, who, those are my last words. And that anger is what brought me down. So I told God or whoever

461
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this was to F off. And with that, I was back watching the paramedics as their truck parked,

462
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as they got out of the truck, I saw them open in the back doors. I saw them take out the gurney.

463
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I saw each of them doing the job that they were doing. One was, I remember one was African American,

464
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one was Latino, African American guys pulling out the gurney, the other Latin guys pulling out the

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journey gurney, the African American guys on top of me, check, I'm guessing checking my pulse, his

466
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face is super close to mine. He I assume he's trying to feel if there's a breath or see if

467
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there's any movement or anything like that. And then it a split second again, I'm in my body.

468
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I open my eyes. He like tigger, like a cat, how jumps like all these body in one movement,

469
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just jumps up and this is a big man, just boom, he's up in the air. I must have scared crap out.

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I told him to take me to the hospital that my insurance card was in my back pocket. And then

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I was back out of my body. I did not want to be in that but I did not want to be there. I did not

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want to be alive in human form again. Did not want that at all. I watched them put my God body

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on the gurney. I watched them put me in the truck, close the doors, go around to the front of the

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truck, get in and drive away. And I said to myself, I am not going there.

475
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But you weren't back in that beautiful place either, were you?

476
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No. No. And this is where I have no idea my curiosity. I started to think, oh, again,

477
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I'm not in that sense of pain. I'm still curious because like I was before I went to the other

478
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side, I was still in that detached kind of, oh, I'm looking at my body. My body's down there.

479
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That must really hurt. I'm in that state and I'm saying to myself, I guess this is how ghosts

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start me because I don't want to go back in that. So if my body then dies and I'm not on the other

481
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side, maybe I'm a ghost. So how did you change your mind? Well, I didn't. So my next conscious memory

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is I'm back in my body. I open my eyes. I see the white of the stuff, the drop ceiling.

483
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And I'm so disappointed. And I know I'm in the hospital. I started to cry. I don't want to be

484
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there. Explain all the emotions that you were crying over. The disappointments.

485
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You know, it's like ripping a kid out of the candy shop when they really, really want candy.

486
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Frustration. Frustration, sadness, anger. Ooh, that anger, the blame. Well, this happened because

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of my parents. They would have just let me go to that party. This wouldn't happen. This happened

488
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by the blame of why would God kick me out? Why would I not be accepted in heaven? I'm not accepted

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anywhere now. That's when I was being told by culture society. I didn't fit in. I wasn't okay

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for me to be me. I was angry at the withdrawal of what felt like a withdrawal of love. And that

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shattered my heart. That sadness, it affected me for decades. That experience took me a lot of healing

492
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work to actually put the pieces of my heart back together in that moment, from that moment.

493
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Yeah. Thank you for sharing. Let me just interject for those that are keeping score. I

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promised we were going to hear something different today. And Fumanchu in a tweed suit, that just

495
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might be the title of this podcast. There we go. That's you, God. Why do you think that the being

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that you saw, and if you think it's God's say so, or some other kind of being, why do you think that's

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how that being appeared to you? I thought about that a lot. And my understanding of God from these

498
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experiences, from my learning and growing and curiosity of this world that we live in, my

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understanding of God is God is everything. Father, mother, pachamama, whatever you want to call it,

500
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you can't escape God. So we are, it's the forest through the trees. People say, well, where's God?

501
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God's right there. God is that divine spark that lives deep within you. God is that joy. God is

502
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literally the breath that you breathe. Even science is talking about a holographic universe or the

503
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universe that is breath. We are breathing in God every day, every time you take a breath,

504
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you are one, you are connected. God is breath itself. This person on the other side, this God,

505
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part of God, I again, I had my whole life, I have had a connection to Asian culture.

506
00:51:02,760 --> 00:51:10,200
The only thing I've ever collected was these deities that you card, you ask at craftsmen,

507
00:51:10,200 --> 00:51:14,680
you card for you, and you put it on the altar and the deity might be a scholar,

508
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might be an angel, might be a guardian, whatever it is. And then you ask the deity, it's like a

509
00:51:20,760 --> 00:51:28,680
Saint Michael's crystal or a metal, you ask it to bestow its gifts upon you, whether it's protection

510
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or guardianship or guidance or knowledge or whatever it is. That's the only thing I've ever

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collected. I've always been on to that. Maybe that was a propensity of the past life. Maybe it's a

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previous life experience. Maybe that was my guardian angel. And my guardian angel is in that form.

513
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I have never been able to figure it out. I know that that experience, that cursing, let's say,

514
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was a representation of the divine. I don't think it's any different though from your being a

515
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representation of a divine. And on that other side, all of our human pettiness, all of that ego

516
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stuff goes away. And the divine could take any form at once. It is, we are the divine understanding

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itself in the many, many millions, billions and trillions of ways that it can. So my question

518
00:52:30,760 --> 00:52:38,840
I always come back to myself is, well, why couldn't God be through that issue? I don't know. Yeah,

519
00:52:38,840 --> 00:52:46,040
I don't either. You've obviously spent a lot of years thinking deeply about all of these things.

520
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How has this experience changed your life? And from a 17-year-old, maybe changed the whole

521
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path that you were on besides just the dance issue? And did it end your dance career? It did.

522
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It ended my dance career. I could, I never could go back to my body just cannot handle that type

523
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of movement. Yeah, I'm sorry to hear that. So besides the physical things, how did it change you?

524
00:53:13,160 --> 00:53:18,840
Well, first, there's a deep gratitude that I could even walk. And to this day, I'm in my 50s

525
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that I could still walk because back then I was told I wouldn't be able to. So the fact that I,

526
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you know, within a year of my accident, I was already walking and I was attempting to take dance

527
00:53:32,360 --> 00:53:38,920
classes, just the fact that I could be in a class. I couldn't, I couldn't succeed in it anymore. But

528
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the fact that I could like walk down and do a pot of meringue, you know, something that that in

529
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itself is just an incredible gift and a blessing right there. Now I look back and I am grateful

530
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for my murder because I think that what was the car behind me, I think it was done purposefully.

531
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There were a lot of people in the Bay Area. My feeling from that very moment was that it was

532
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done on purpose. And there's a part of me that even says, I think I know, like there's a feeling

533
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that I know who did it, but I've never consciously been able to pinpoint who that was. And I don't

534
00:54:19,240 --> 00:54:24,840
need to. And I really don't do anymore. No, there's probably nothing positive to come of that. But

535
00:54:24,840 --> 00:54:32,040
why do you think, why do you think someone tried to murder you? I don't, I, I, there's a perception

536
00:54:32,680 --> 00:54:38,200
when I look, when I can look into the rear view mirror. So I'm on a bike, right? And there's two

537
00:54:38,200 --> 00:54:44,680
mirrors coming up on the side that let me see behind me. And there's this idea that I can see

538
00:54:44,680 --> 00:54:51,480
the person that's in that mirror that I recognize who that is. Maybe it was just somebody who was

539
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angry. Maybe it was somebody who needed gay people and wanted to remove us from the earth.

540
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I have no idea. I mean, I've had guns pointed at me, knives pointed at me. I've had groups of people,

541
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you know, surround me and tell me horrible things. I had employers fight, fire me. I've had, you know,

542
00:55:11,800 --> 00:55:16,440
put people put knives up to my face. I've had all kinds of stuff. People I don't even know

543
00:55:17,240 --> 00:55:24,760
who don't like me. And they tell me they don't like me because I'm gay. And I'm not one of those

544
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people that can hide it. I know a lot of people say, well, you can hide it. You don't have to be

545
00:55:29,880 --> 00:55:36,920
that way. Well, no, I have a peak neon triangle up my head that everybody sees. So it's, it's there.

546
00:55:36,920 --> 00:55:42,360
It's all me. It's there. Paint neon triangle. Yeah, it's like classy. You know, it's like

547
00:55:42,360 --> 00:55:48,760
classy. He's like above my head. Yeah. You know, I can't find who I am. And I know there's some

548
00:55:48,760 --> 00:55:55,080
people who can't, you know, but for me, I've never been that person that could really do that.

549
00:55:55,080 --> 00:56:01,640
Well, unfortunately, I think in this earth existence, we're not going to come to a point

550
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anytime soon where everybody has the kind of love that they need to for everybody. Yeah, we could

551
00:56:07,240 --> 00:56:14,040
just keep loving everybody and making those choices. And that's one of my, one of my takeaways.

552
00:56:14,040 --> 00:56:19,240
I from my death experience, one of my takeaways is that accidents are real. A lot of people say,

553
00:56:19,240 --> 00:56:24,040
oh, there's no such thing as accidents. You know, everything's meant to happen. You know, maybe.

554
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And I certainly can't prove it. I think that as a, as a species, as, as evolutionary beings,

555
00:56:31,320 --> 00:56:38,280
we are all going in the singular direction that how we get there, we bump into each other.

556
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And we have free will. And if you're going to have free will, then you have to make wrong

557
00:56:43,320 --> 00:56:49,480
for accidents. There are, we make mistakes. We go down wrong paths. We make choices that are

558
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out of alignment with the love of the divine and accidents happen. And so I truly believe in accidents.

559
00:56:57,480 --> 00:57:02,760
I don't think they're bad things. I believe we all get back on course, right? Like that tunnel,

560
00:57:02,760 --> 00:57:09,480
we were going in a direction, right? Now, how we get there, well, accidents can happen.

561
00:57:09,480 --> 00:57:14,040
I believe that too. I don't think everything is predestined for us.

562
00:57:14,040 --> 00:57:15,080
I don't either.

563
00:57:15,080 --> 00:57:20,440
I don't either. It just doesn't make sense to me. So how else did this experience change the

564
00:57:20,440 --> 00:57:25,640
trajectory of your life? Oh, it recreated my entire life. Because as a, as a kid,

565
00:57:25,640 --> 00:57:29,960
I started as an actor around eight years old. And that was how I, that was my vision,

566
00:57:29,960 --> 00:57:36,520
my perception of myself. It took me a while. I struggled with chronic, chronic pain. I had

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to learn how to walking and I have a mild and I, Friday's as my bronchitis, my white blood cells

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were attacking my red blood cells, my hemoglobin was splitting at different times, shutting down

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my organs. I severely dehydrated a few times to the point of if I hadn't gotten medical intervention,

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I would have died. And those are those sort of what I like to say close to death experiences

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that I went through. And I was lost. I felt like I had no purpose. I had no reason to be here. I had

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been kicked out of the habit. And I've come to now be grateful and to either bless my, my murder.

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I have come to be in a place of just never wanting to change that. If anybody gave me the

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opportunity to go back in time and change that I wouldn't, you know, I got my master's degree,

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I learned so much. I became a therapist. I helped thousands of people to heal. I taught around the

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world. I, I consulted at Stanford University. I wrote a book that was published by Simon and

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Schuster, like these gifts and especially the gift of being able to sit down with someone

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and witness their pain on a deep level. I could not do that if it wasn't for the gift of that

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near death experience. Why did you want to be on this podcast today? Because I love sharing that

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message. I love sharing that message that death isn't something to be afraid of. It's something to

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be embraced. I love sharing the message that you can't get this wrong. You can't get this wrong.

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You are so loved. You already have fulfilled your purpose just by being here as an expression of the

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divine. You mentioned the book. If people want to learn more about your experience and what you

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learned from it, where should they look that up? Yeah. So I wrote this book. It's called

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Convergence Healing. That says become my brand, how I put myself out. Convergence, C-O-N-V-E-R-G-E

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and C-E, Convergence Healing, Healing Pain with Energetic Love. I wrote it really for my clients

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and then Simon and Schuster got a mold of it. I didn't even try to sell it. They bought it and

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published it. It was just amazing. So they could find my book. I reported the audio version on

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Audible. It's on Kindle. It's on Amazon. It's at Barnes & Noble. It can get it pretty much

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everywhere. So I wrote that book. I have a new book coming out this September called Billy and

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the Anxiety Monster, How to Love Your Anxiety and Heal. I get to share these experiences with people.

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I get to live what I love. I get to work what I love and do what I love. And so I don't really work.

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I just share these lessons and learnings and experiences and help other people and hold

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their hand as they go through there. Sounds like a great life. Thanks for sharing. Any last thoughts?

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Any last thoughts? I think that what this world needs more than anything is that joy, that bliss,

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that love. And as a therapist, a lot of people are suffering in the world. And there's a lot of

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division. There's a lot of hatred. There's a lot of anger at ourselves and our own bodies. And I'm

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hoping that people will look at their pain, not as something to medicate, not as something to cut

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away or throw away or be embarrassed or ashamed of, but to look at their pain as a part of them

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that's suffering. And what that part needs more than anything is not your anger or your frustration

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that it's there. What it needs is your love. So for those who are listening, if there's a part of

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you that's suffering, whether it's a physical part in your body, whether it's a mental part in your

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mind or spiritual part in your heart, I ask you to bring love to that part. Hold it, embrace it,

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accept it. Give it the love that it needs in order to heal. Stop being a bully to it. Stop telling

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it to go away. Stop medicating it and drugging it and wanting to cut it out. Do what you need to do.

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Follow your own instincts, but bring love to the part that's suffering. If we actually choose to do

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that in the world for ourselves, we contribute to what I think is the tipping point of bringing

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more and more of that love of the divine into this life that we are living now.

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Thanks, Peter. I enjoyed it. Thank you. I'm so glad to be here.

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or a near-death experiencer that we should have on the show, send an email to Eric at roundtripdeath.com

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and that's Eric with a C. Until then, I wish you everything good that you're looking for in this life

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and the next.